Part 1: The Crazy Cycle
Without Love - She Reacts - Without Respect - He Reacts
Chapter 1 - The Simple Secret to a Better Marriage
"Those who marry will face many troubles in this life..." (1 Corinthians 7:28)
This is why communication is so important!
You can be right but wrong at the top of your voice.
Tension has a way of tearing down your self-image.
"Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." - Ephesians 5:33
The Love & Respect Connection is the key to any problem in a marriage.
How the need for love and the need for respect play off one another in a marriage has everything to do with the kind of marriage you will have.
A husband is to obey the command to love even if his wife does not obey this command to respect, and a wife is to obey the command to respect even if the husband does not obey the command to love. A husband is even called to love a disrespectful wife, and a wife is called to respect an unloving husband. There is no justification for a husband to say, "I will love my wife after she respects me," nor a wife to say, "I will respect my husband after he loves me."
When a husband feels disrespected, it is especially hard to love his wife. When a wife feels unloved, it is especially hard to respect her husband. When a husband feels disrespected, he has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel unloving to his wife. Similarly, when a wife feels unloved, she has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel disrespectful to her husband.
If husband and wives do not learn how to control this "Crazy Cycle," it will just go round and round and where it stops nobody knows.